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THESE Babes Give A GREAT BLOWJOB!
"NoBloJo" emailed me with her dilemma. She has a boyfriend who loves getting a blowjob off her but is a "missionary man" when it comes to sex. She says he doesn't like to talk about sex and she wants to know how to get him to open up and be more adventurous in their love-making.
I knew a girl like that once. She thought she was fat, (she wasn't thin, but she sure wasn't overweight), and wouldn't get off her back when we fucked. After a while I got a little bored with that, and seeing as how I'd already tried to convince her that she wasn't fat, I used a cunning plan to get her to change her ways. 
I introduced a "game" of giving and receiving. Here's how it works...
Next time you're about to have sex, tell your boyfriend you want to try something new. If he gets nervous just tell him to relax as you'll go first in the role of the "giver".
Start off with a slow, easy massage and build up gradually to more erotic activities like kissing and genital stimulation.
Now's your chance to treat his body the way you want him to treat yours. If you want more kissing... kiss him more. If you want more oral action, then give him more.
Encourage him to tell you how he feels and be sure to let him know how much you're enjoying the experience too. The heart of this technique is positive reinforcement and creating a positive feedback loop.
Remember, this time around it was HIS turn to receive. Gently remind him that YOUR turn is coming up. Wait until he's orgasmed to remind him as he won't be able to focus on you if he's still in a peak state of arousal.
Now, when it's your turn to receive (either after he's had a chance to recover, or else the next time you have sex) he'll likely follow your example, whether he realizes it or not.
Also, just the simple fact of being in "giver" mode will compel him to slow down and to attune himself to your needs and responses.
Make sure you enthusiastically let him know what feels good, and *gently* let him know what doesn't. If you don't enjoy a particular activity, then let him know. But be sure to put your criticisms in a positive manner.
i.e. If you don't like something he's doing, simply tell him it doesn't feel as good as the other things he's been doing.
Over time this method WILL work. I managed to turn my girlfriend into a contortionist nymphomaniac blowjob lover in a matter of months. Then she left me... 
Posted: Thursday 3rd February 2005, 1:12 PM
